The mountain is you

Introduction --

• life often works in our favour, even when we think otherwise, just like nature where some destruction require new things to evolve and grow. Our mind also goes through posetive disintegeration or cleansing which renews our self concept.

• We transform when we reach our edge states, it might feel like rock bottom but this reality is that it happens when we come to terms with the problems that have existed for a long time, this breakdown is often just the tipping point that preceds the breakthrough.

• A mountain can be compared to

  • just as a mountain is formed when two section of ground are forced against each other your mountain arise out of coexisting and conflicting needs.

  • THis requires us to reconcile the part of us that is aware of what we want and the part that we are not aware of why we are still holding ourself back.

  • These mountain provide us with an inherent wisdom about what it will take to rise up to our highest potential.

• The fact that we are imperfoect is not a sign that i have failed but it is a sign that we are human and more importantly it is a sign that we still have more potential within us.

• Few people know what their mountain is , few dont . in most cases it is not evidennt on the surface level

• We often think that to face a mountain means to face life’s hardships, but the truth is that it is almost always because of the years we have spent accumulating tiny traumas, adaptations, and coping mechanisms, all of which have compounded over time.

• This mountain is the block between us and the life we want to live, facing this is the only path to our freedom and becoming.

• Your old self can no longer sustain the life you are trying to lead; it is time for reinvention and rebirth.

• You must mourn the loss of your younger self, the person who has gotten you this far but who is no longer equipped to carry you onward. You must envision and become one with your future self, the hero of your life that is going to lead you from here.

• In the end, it is not the mountain that you must master, but yourself.

Self sabotage --

• On the surface, self-sabotage seems masochistic. It appears to be a product of self-hatred, low confidence, or a lack of willpower. In reality, selfsabotage is simply the presence of an unconscious need that is being fulfilled by the self-sabotaging behavior.

• One can overcome this by deep psychological excavation, one must pinpoint the traumatic event, release unprocessed emotions and find healthier ways to meed our need, reinvent our self image and develop principles such as emotional intelligence and resilience.

• SELF-SABOTAGE IS A COPING MECHANISM

• Self-sabotage is what happens when we refuse to consciously meet our innermost needs, often because we do not believe we are capable of handling them.

• we sabotage --

  • relationship , because we really want is to find ourself, though we are afraind to be alone

  • professional sucess because what we really want is to create art even if it will make us seem less ambitious by society's measures

  • healing journbey by psychoanalyzing our feeling because by doing so ensures we avoid actually avoid experiencing them

  • Self-talk because if we belived in ourself we would feel free to get back out in the world and take risks and that would leave us vulnerable

• At the ens self sabotage is just a coping mechanism, a way we give ourselvs what we need without having to actually adress what that need is.

• Self sabotage comes from

  • Irrational Fear

  • Unconscious negative assocaitions

  • Whats unfamiliar

  • From belief systems

There is no such things as self sabotage

• WHEN YOU HABITUATE YOURSELF to do things that move your life forward, you call them skills. When they hold your life back, you call them self-sabotage.

• The habits and behaviors you can’t stop engaging in—no matter how destructive or limiting they may be—are intelligently designed by your subconscious to meet an unfulfilled need, displaced emotion, or neglected desire.

• Overcoming self-sabotage is not about trying to figure out how to override your impulses; it is first determining why those impulses exist in the first place.

• We often misattribute these behaviors to a lack of intelligence, willpower, or capability. That is usually not the case.

• Self-sabotage is not a way we hurt ourselves; it’s a way we try to protect ourselves.

• When it comes to self-sabotaging behaviors, you have to understand that sometimes, it’s easy to get attached to having problems.

  • Being successful can make you less liked.

  • Finding love can make you more vulnerable.

  • Making yourself less attractive can guard you.

  • Playing small allows you to avoid scrutiny.

  • Procrastinating puts you back in a place of comfort.

• but realizing that your problems are not problems; they are symptoms. You cannot get rid of the coping mechanisms and think you’ve solved the problem.

• What does self sabotage looks like

  • R E S I S TA N C E

  • H I T T I N G Y O U R U P P E R L I M I T

  • U P R O O T I N G

  • P E R F E C T I O N I S M

  • L I M I T E D E M O T I O N A L P R O C E S S I N G S K I L L S

  • J U S T I F I C AT I O N

  • D I S O R G A N I Z AT I O N

  • AT TA C H M E N T T O W H AT Y O U D O N ’ T R E A L LY WA N T

  • J U D G I N G O T H E R S

  • P R I D E

  • G U I LT O F S U C C E E D I N G

  • F E A R O F FA I L I N G

  • D O W N P L AY I N G

  • U N H E A LT H Y H A B I T S

  • B E I N G “B U S Y ”

  • S P E N D I N G T I M E W I T H T H E W R O N G P E O P L E

  • W O R R Y I N G A B O U T I R R AT I O N A L F E A R S A N D L E A S T L I K E LY C I R C U M S TA N C E S

• How to tell if you are in a self sabotage cycle

  • YOU ARE MORE AWARE OF WHAT YOU DON’T WANT THAN WHAT YOU DO.

  • YOU SPEND MORE TIME TRYING TO IMPRESS PEOPLE WHO DON’T LIKE YOU THAN YOU SPEND WITH PEOPLE WHO LOVE YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE.

  • YOU’RE PUT TING YOUR HEAD IN THE SAND.

  • YOU CARE MORE ABOUT CONVINCING OTHER PEOPLE

  • YOU’RE OKAY THAN ACTUALLY BEING OKAY

  • YOUR MAIN PRIORIT Y IN LIFE IS TO BE LIKED, EVEN IF THAT COMES AT THE EXPENSE OF BEING HAPPY

  • YOU’RE MORE AFRAID OF YOUR FEELINGS THAN ANY THING ELSE.

  • YOU’RE BLINDLY CHASING GOALS WITHOUT ASKING YOURSELF WHY YOU WANT THOSE THINGS

  • YOU’RE TREATING YOUR COPING MECHANISMS AS THE PROBLEM.

  • YOU VALUE YOUR DOUBT MORE THAN YOUR POTENTIAL

  • YOU ARE TRYING TO CARE ABOUT EVERY THING

  • YOU ARE WAITING FOR SOMEONE ELSE TO OPEN A DOOR, OFFER APPROVAL, OR HAND YOU THE LIFE YOU HAVE BEEN WAITING FOR.

  • YOU DON’T REALIZE HOW FAR YOU’VE COME

• Identifying your subconsious commitments

  • Part of the reason we often experience intense inner conflict or selfsabotage

    is because of something called a core commitments, which is essentially your primary objective or intention for your life

  • Your subconscious commitments are basically what you want more than anything else, and you often aren’t even aware of them. You can identify your core commitments by looking at the things that you struggle with most and the things you are most driven by.

• C O N F R O N T I N G R E P R E S S E D E M O T I O N S A N D TA K I N G A C T I O N